True Identity

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:10-31‬ KJV

As a wife one thing that used to set me on edge was being compared to the woman above. In truth I used to feel men would refer to this ‘ideal’ woman to highlight women’s shortcomings as opposed to really encouraging growth in them. I would say to myself, don’t men understand the pressure women are under?

After much thought, which was sadly preceded by some sharp remarks to my husband… I decided to swallow my pride and read this passage again. I’m glad I did.

Society/culture teaches us one thing about what a woman/wife is and what her responsibilities are but the bible teaches us another. Society teaches selfishness whereas the bible teaches selflessness –


Princess Mentality

From your Disney classics – Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella – through to your Princess Diaries, Society promotes a ‘Princess’ like mentality to kids and young women, who inevitably take this same mentality into marriage. Yes a woman wants to be loved and cherished but God did not create marriage for us to be pampered and waited on.. there is an actual mission at hand and work to be done.

Proverbs 31 reminds me that as a wife I am not just a pretty face, I am more than a companion.. I am an ‘help meet’ (Genesis 2:20 KJV). I am responsible for helping my husband to become who God has called him to be. I am responsible for my household (children, anyone living under my roof). I also have a responsibility towards my community.


Submission is not weakness but wisdom

With society’s call for women to be ’empowered’ and the ‘independent’ woman, there is no room for submitting to your husband, whereas the bible teaches us that wives should be submitted to their husbands as unto the Lord.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:22‬ KJV

You cannot truly say that you are submitted unto the Lord who you don’t see if you can’t submit to your husband who you do see. (In the same way you cannot truly say that you love God who you don’t see if you cannot love your neighbour who you do see.)


Pseudo Equality

Some of the things society tries to peddle as ‘equality’ is an attempt to turn the roles of men and women on its head. A woman who insists on wearing the so-called ‘trousers’ in her home is only shooting herself in the foot because the bible recognises the man as the head of the woman and any other alternative is calling for trouble.

“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:23‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Above are just a few examples of how society is slowly poisoning the minds of women from an early age and breeding selfish individuals. No wonder it’s a struggle sometimes when it comes to marriage and following the biblical example of what a woman/wife is. As women/wives our true identity is found in the bible and not in these Disney movies or ‘reality tv’ shows.

I encourage you to pick up your bible and discover your true identity today, the Proverbs 31 woman is something we should keep at the forefront of our minds and should not be taken lightly.

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About Ayo

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2 thoughts on “True Identity

  1. Well said Ayo. Interestingly I read these particular verses partaining to the ‘ideal woman’ I decided to read it again because I wanted to be like the woman.

    I guess the point of the verse is not to be like exactly like woman but to learn from her.

    I agree on what you said about how society is slowly poisoning the minds of women from a young age. It’s sad to see.

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